'Don't tell me how to spend my money!' Man's Lottery Win Tears Relationship Apart As Girlfriend Demands They Use the Money to Move Away, Leaving Behind Friends and Family

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    r/AITAH u/Realistic_Bag_7983 • 1d AITA for telling my girlfriend to stop telling me how to spend the money I won?
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    I live in the UK and I recently won a life changing amount of money. By this I mean enough to quit my job and never work again. I live with my girlfriend and told her about the win. She was excited at the fact I'd won and we started talking about what to do with it.
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    We live in quite a deprived part of the UK so my girlfriend immediately started talking about moving to a city and living somewhere nicer. I said no to this as family and friends are nearby and my parents are both quite ill so I don't want to move far away and have to travel far to see them. She said we could look at cities that aren't too far but I again refused and just said we'll look at a nice house in a nicer part of the town we live in.
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    She said she doesn't want to continue living here is we have this much money. I told her it's me who has won the money so she doesn't get to tell me how to spend it. She just said she wants to move away but I just reiterated it's my winnings not hers and that the final decision is mine. She said I wasn't being fair by considering it but I told her she was being unreasonable for expecting to get to dictate how I spend the money.
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    She said we're a couple and should be making the decisions together but I just told her that some things aren't up for discussion and that I'm not moving away. SHe just called me unreasonable and said I should be considering her opinion on it. AITA for telling my girlfriend to stop telling me how to spend the money I won? ۵ 2,157 1,320 D
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    not Augustbutordinary • 1d Do not get married to this woman without getting thorough legal advice on how to protect your assets. Reply 4.4k
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    chagirrrl • 1d Holla we want prenup, we want prenup! Edit: FYI it's a song Edit 2: yes, y'all, prenups in the uk are not the same or viable, I understand! 1.4k
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    Ameglian • 1d And I'd add don't have a kid with her either! ... Dr Ŵ 96 ↓
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    Unpopular OpinionsB • 22h OP... Listen to this advice. DO NOT MARRY THIS WOMAN! 81
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    mrshanana 20h Don't leave debit, credit cards around. Change all passwords and bank statements. Don't tell anyone else about this and laugh and say it was only $10k when people start asking questions. Always, always lie and say you have less. 22
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    EmmEmm228. 1d Forget the money for a moment. There's an existing incompatibility issue with not wanting to live in the same type of area. If that can't be solved, nothing else about this relationship, including how to spend the money, matters. ← Reply 243
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    Horror-Football-2097 • 18h Yea sounds like she's dreamt of getting out of this town while he thought they had a perfect life. Having the opportunity to choose where they live just shone a light on a fundamental difference between them that didn't matter before because they didn't have that choice. But it would've come up at any point where their incomes increased or otherwise got a boost that could get them out of there. 54
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    00 Pale_Cranberry1502 • 18h Yes! The underlying issue is that she wants to get out of a not-great area and sees them both having the means to do so through a Godsend. Possibly just for their own sakes, but if they plan on kids also for the realities of school districting. He intends to live near his parents in that area through the lifetime of whichever of them lasts longest.
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    They're incompatible at a basic level. He also isn't there yet as far as her being his priority - and that's okay if they're not on the life partnership track yet. 48
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    VacationTechnical980 • 20h Yes exactly my thoughts. It seems they want very different things in life. 17
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    Legal-Lingonberry577 • 1d Have you taken a moment to thank your lucky stars you won the money before you got married? Reply 419
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    Fit-Mangos 20h That's the lottery right there! 39
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    Zealousideal-Olive34 • 1d "She said she doesn't want to continue living here". That is a statement she has made. She needs to find out for herself what all is out there, and go find herself an adventure! ... Reply D 378
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    Villebilly • 16h Yeah I don't think this is about the money as much as it's about her wanting to move away and him not wanting to move away. Seems like they need to sit down and talk about what they want and where they see the relationship going. ← 12
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    Poperama74 • 1d It's fine if she doesn't want to continue living there. She could move out. But we both know that isn't going to happen with that money sat there ... Reply 134
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    No_Doughnut 1991 • 23h Has there ever been a conversation about the future? Has she ever expressed wanting to leave the town you live in? Have you ever given her the impression you would consider moving to a bigger city? Or did this all just come out of left field?
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    Is this woman your future? Money changes people. You have every right to want to stay close to family and friends. This is going to drive a wedge in your relationship. Finances are the cause for like 70% of divorces, and y'all aren't married yet. Is she going to expect you to cover all the bills now that you can afford it? Is this really never work again money? Have you spoken to a financial planner? Do you have a plan? Investing? ΝΤΑ Reply 23
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    Realistic_Bag_7983 OP 23h • We mentioned that we'd likely buy a house in the town we're in. We said it might be nice to live in a city in the future but not for quite a long time. For the last few questions yeah it's never work again money and I'd be paying all bills. Yeah I have a financial advisor and have got a plan with him ... ← 22 ♡ 223

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